Not Optimal? Really?

Pat Smith, mother of one of the diplomats murdered in Libya, responding to Obama's glib response to Jon Stewart's glibber(?) question:

My son is not very optimal – my son is very dead.

For what it's worth (and that is obviously close to nothing), I am sorry her son was murdered. I cringed when I heard President Empty Chair's response to Stewart. Worse, it was delivered with a smile while yucking it up on Comedy Central.

Mitt Romney was heavily criticized for "politicizing" the events in Libya. For example, here's was NY Times pit viper Maureen Dowd criticizing Romney for having the temerity to say what Obama said two or three hours later:

Romney’s cynical braying about Obama appeasement in the midst of the attack on the American diplomatic post in Libya and the murder of the brave ambassador, Christopher Stevens, was shameful.

I guess unless Obama says it first, you are politicizing it.

I also remember something else Dowd wrote in 2005.

It's amazing that the White House does not have the elementary shrewdness to have Mr. Bush simply walk down the driveway and hear ... [Cindy Sheehan, mother of slain soldier Casey Sheehan] ... out, or invite her in for a cup of tea. But W., who has spent nearly 20 percent of his presidency at his ranch, is burrowed into his five-week vacation and two-hour daily workouts. He may be in great shape, but Iraq sure isn't.

That was Dowd berating Bush because he refused to politicize the death of Casey Sheehan

This situation is identical, so why aren't Dowd and the NY Times printing columns about Obama's failure to stop by the Smith residence and "just hear the woman out?" Or better yet, columns about Obama "cynically braying about non-optimal states of affairs?"

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